Does one Regret Owning Failed as part of your Interactions? Make the necessary Variations NOW - And Do well

Study has shown that when people are ?continue reading staying requested about regrets they may have, they regret not much on whatever they HAVE performed, but on what they have not done: education they have not pursued; career-ladder they failed to follow; intimate relationships they didn't deal with to produce & maintain; children they failed to have and personal development they haven't taken the time to establish.

Why do we regret whatever it is that we Did not accomplish?

The reason is simple: looking back, we often know that it almost unlikely to "bring back" to our lives whatever it is that we regret not owning accomplished.

Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse treating the terminally ill, author of the book "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying" summarizes the first five regrets which were mentioned by persons she treated.

Let me emphasize here these five regrets and illustrate the toll they may have had on intimate associations:

1. I wish I had the courage to be true to my self, rather than doing what others have expected of me

Many are NOT true to themselves within a relationship. They are afraid of currently being criticized and judged, and most of all - be rejected and abandoned. They have learned, at an early age, that expressing their needs and desires cost them dearly. As adults, they therefore tend to "accommodate" to their partner, out of fear that otherwise they won't meet their partner's expectations. At the end, they are unable to create and nurture a healthy relationship of give & take, and often feel unsatisfied in whichever relationship they may have.

Remaining true to yourself means: removing your masks and behaving according to your authentic self, out of a sense of self-worth and empowerment. When you are true to yourself you can be true with your partner. You can then develop an authentic, healthy and a satisfying relationship.

2. I wish I wasn't working so hard

Many devote much time to their work that they don't invest in the relationship. They justify it to themselves by stating that 'Time is money"; that "They must bring income home"; that they "Must take care of their career".

But at the end of the day, those who have taken their work to an extreme, focusing mainly on it and neglecting their interactions, come to regret it - regardless of whether they are increasingly being abandoned by their partners or live together as two strangers under the same roof.

If you are sincere about your relationship it is imperative that you make the time to be there for your partner; to share time and interests together; to feel that the two of you build a life together. Talking openly with one another about how to go about maintaining a good relationship while the two of you are working (or studying) is crucial. Open communication - in which you express yourself freely - is crucial to developing and maintaining a healthy and satisfying intimacy, in which the two of you can support each other and be there for one another in spite of your busy work and/or study schedule.

3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings

Many deny and repress their feeling and emotions in order to "live in peace" with their partners. It goes without saying, that not expressing oneself is part of not becoming true to oneself. This leads them to live life in which their self-expression is limited. Not allowing themselves to express feelings and emotions often results in feeling embittered, angry, blaming their partners for "not letting me express myself".